my wifi signal has been intermittent most of the day. i wasn't able to do more than open mail and read it. this is the first time i have been able to access journals. i am writing now and hoping that the signal remains, as it has for the last two hours.
i got a text message today from my daughter. a girl at my work messed up my cell phone by readjusting something in the text section, so i wasn't able to do anything but read the message and then called my daughter back. the message was not one that a mother wants to hear..............my daughter was fired friday night from a job she has had and has busted her butt on for over 2 years. of course, she was obviously upset, and though i don't approve of what she did afterwards, i at least understand. she got drunk. she is legal age now, so i can't say anything about it. she was responsible enough to know not to drive drunk so she stayed at the apartment where she was drinking till around 3 am on saturday morning. her boyfriend showed up to pick her up and she left her car there. the next day (today, sunday) the friend where she left the car called and told her that she hated to inform her of this, but her car had been broken into through the passenger side window and they took her stereo.
now, i could have been a mother, and told her that is what happens when you drink and aren't able to take care of your own business, but instead, i told her i was so sorry to hear about it, and though she has helped me out of some messes lately, i was not financially able to help her, but if she needed a ride somewhere while the car was being fixed or just wanted to come over and talk, i was there for her. my therapist told me several years ago that it was time i quit trying to be her mother, and be a friend. of course, it doesn't make it any easier to accept the things that happen in your child's life, but there isn't any strife between us anymore. and that in and of itself is worth the effort of befriending her.
my heart goes out to her, but she has already taken care of most of the problem. a friend is getting a window for her cheaper, and putting it in for free. and another friend is giving her a stereo and putting it in for free. idon't have those types of friends.....what did i do wrong, lol.
2 comments:
Sorry about your daughter's problems. Being the mother of two of those breed of cats i know its so hard to not give advice. She sure does have some good friends to help her out. My youngest got fired from a job for the first time ever and had just worked three days and they wouldn't even tell her why she was being fired. That really hurt her and there was nothing I could do except let her vent. Hope yours finds a better one and one that she likes. Paula
Its nice that she has the friends, but I would rather avoid the drama of having the car broken into.
Greg
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